The Shulamite says to her husband in Song of Solomon 7:11-12, “Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards…there I will give you my love.” By chapter 7 Solomon and the Shulamite are no longer on the honeymoon, yet here we see them planning for romance.
Single people and newly weds don’t understand this. Plan for it? What? But what single people and newlyweds perhaps don’t understand is that once the honeymoon is over and you get back to work, and you start having kids, life gets busy – and when it does, one of the first things to go in the relationship is the romance. You combat this natural tendency to neglect romance, by doing what Solomon and the Shulamite did – you plan for it so it doesn’t get neglected.
Everything that’s important in my life I have on my calendar. Everything that’s important in my life I set up reminders for on my phone. It’s no different with my love life. I remember one time a reminder went off on Kristin’s phone. It just said “Mike.” I was like “What’s that for honey?” I loved finding out the answer to that question! We schedule doctors appointments, dentists appointments, birthday parties, our anniversary, and anything else we don’t want to miss out on, including romance.
As they say: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Don’t leave it up to chance. Prioritize romance by scheduling it! I heard a pastor once say “Just mark on your calendar…”
- Sunday is fun-day, or…
- Monday morning madness, or…
- Two for Tuesday, or…
- Wow-wow Wednesday, or…
- Throw down Thursday, or…
- Freaky Friday, or…
- If you get through all six of those, put Saturday on the calendar for a day of rest! You’re going to need it!
The Bible teaches us that great sex is planned sex.