If this isn’t how you view it, then something is wrong. Song of Solomon 4:6, “Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense.” Here Solomon gives her breasts nick names. He calls one “mountain of myrrh” and one “hill of incense.” These are his new friends and he wants to stay up celebrating with them all night long. This verse reminds us that Lionel Richie wasn’t the first man to think up “all night long.” Solomon had him beat by thousands of years!
It’s so easy for something to switch from a delight to a duty. When I first got my snowblower, using it was a delight. I remembered how difficult it was to shovel and I would delight in the fact that the machine now just threw the snow wherever I wanted it to go. But that was last year. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to use a shovel. I’ve forgotten what a blessing my snow blower is compared to using a shovel. And with so many snowstorms lately, using the snowblower has become a duty. I used to pray that it would snow and then celebrate when I got to use it. Now it’s just a chore! But last Tuesday morning I was on my way in to work and I saw my neighbor shoveling his driveway by hand. I turned around, grabbed my snowblower and helped him out. When I remembered what it was like to shovel by hand I found a renewed appreciation for the gift and how privileged I am to have a snowblower.
Sex is a gift from God! It’s very easy to lose the right perspective on sex but we have to remember that it’s something God gave us to celebrate. It’s not supposed to be a burden, rather a blessing. It’s something to celebrate! It’s not a chore!
- Husbands: Your wife also has two needs: One is to connect emotionally before connecting physically. And the second is to live in an atmosphere and environment of love. You can’t treat or speak to her harshly and then wonder why she doesn’t view sex with you as a celebration.
- Wives: Your husband has two needs. One is physical and one is emotional. If you’re available but not involved (that is, if you’re just a bump on a log) your husband’s physical need will be met, but his emotional need won’t. That is, if you treat the experience as a chore, he won’t be truly fulfilled. True fulfillment comes when you treat the experience like the celebration it’s supposed to be.
The Bible says great sex is a celebration, not a chore.